BJJ a “Full Contact Sport”

I’ve got a good friend who I have been trying to get to come to Jiu-Jitsu.  He recently witnessed a confrontation between a parent and his kid’s coach.  It looked like it was going to end in a fight.  The coach didn’t start it.  It was a over zealous parent that got in his face and started shouting.  You know the type.  The coach was a large muscular man and the parent of average build. From the story my friend told me.  I think what most up set my friend was that the bigger coach didn’t seem to know how to react and my friend didn’t either.  My friend realized he was unprepared for a fight if one ever happened.  He decided he should join me at Jiu-Jitsu but when I explained what submission grappling is like he backed off and said "I don’t like people to touch me"  I responded with "I don’t think an assailant cares".  Although he agreed with my logic the "fight or flight" feeling of the situation he had been put in had now dimmed.  His discomfort at being touched was greater then the adrenaline he had felt during the conflict.  I still want him to come with me.  But how do I convince him? 

Jiu-Jitsu is Life and Life is Jiu-Jitsu

6 Replies to “BJJ a “Full Contact Sport””

  1. How interesting. He actually said he does not like being touched? If this is truly his feeling, then BJJ will either cure him of it, or he will find it horrible. One session should find out the truth.
    Regardless, pitchside incidents between over zealous parents and sports staff – many of whom are volunteers – are quite common and probably count for a number of actual physical encounters. I personalyl would like to think I would never be such a parent, but the few times where I felt my young’uns were in jeaopardy or unfairly treated I too have seen the red mist. It’s very hard to control.

    1. I just don’t have a more powerful argument then “you are going to get touch in a fight. You might as well learn to defend yourself”. If that doesn’t sway him then what will?

  2. Teach him how to throw a kick to the balls then run. Minimum amount of contact and maximum effect. You want to teach him jiu jitsu so he can beat people up in fight? Maybe he should just get a gun and wave it around when he feels like he needs some respect. Or maybe a sword. Nobody messes with a soccer dad with a sword.

    1. I added your blog to the comment, Blake. You talk about a gun or a sword but look who wants a bear for respect. I’ll tell my friend he has a choice now Jiu-Jitsu or a pet bear (he already has the truck).

      If my post doesn’t make much sense to you read Blake’s blog.

  3. I also had discomfort with being touched before I started martial arts, but I was surprised at how quickly I got over it. Unfortunately I don’t think there is anything you can do to get him to change his mind, he has to want to overcome that fear himself, and it doesn’t sound like he sees it as a problem. I like the sword idea, but I don’t know if they let you carry swords (or bring bears with you) into kid’s sporting events…maybe he could get his face completely tattooed. Everyone is afraid of someone with a tattooed face!

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